Rubies

What Is a Ruby and Where Are They Found?

Ruby is one of the four precious gemstones. The others are emerald, sapphire, and diamond. Ruby comes from the Latin “rubens” meaning red.

Rubies are made of corundum. Corundum comes in many other colors, but those colors are classified as sapphires. Pink corundum is sometimes referred to as pink sapphire and other times is referred to as pink ruby depending on the hue, region, and personal opinion. Ruby gets its red coloring from trace amounts of chromium. 

Ruby measures 9 on the Mohs Scale of Hardness, second only to diamond and matched with sapphire. This makes ruby an extremely hard and durable gemstone. 

History and Lore

Rubies symbolize power and protection. When worn as a talisman, ruby was believed to help protect warriors in battle. One more modern allusion to this legend is in The Wizard of Oz. Dorthy’s ruby slippers were thought to protect her from evil. 

Rubies are referenced four different times in the bible. The Bible associates these gems with beauty and wisdom.  

According to ancient folklore, people of India believed rubies would help them be at peace with their enemies. 

Thailand is one of the leading hubs for ruby mining and production, with other leading countries including Madagascar, Sri Lanka, and India. 

Famous Rubies

Until the beginning of the 19th century, red spinels were thought to be rubies. Famous stones including “Black Prince’s Ruby” and “Timur Ruby” were considered to be rubies until it was discovered that they and many other red stones were, in fact, red spinels. 

Some famous rubies include the “Rosser Reeves Star Ruby,” the “Edwardes Ruby,” and the “De Long Star Ruby”

In 2011, an 8.24-carat ruby ring belonging to Elizabeth Taylor and made by Van Cleef & Arpels sold at auction for $4.2 million, with the price per carat amounting to approximately $500,000. 

The most expensive ruby ever sold was the “Hope Ruby” which weighs 32.08 carats and sold for $6.74 million. 

Value

High-quality rubies that weigh over 10 carats can sell for much more than a similar-sized diamond. Some large rubies have fetched sale prices upwards of $225,000 per carat. Comparably sized diamonds average a sales price of around $125,000 per carat. Rubies of this magnitude are significantly more rare than larger sized diamonds, which explains the difference in price.

The most desirable shade of ruby is a deep red with a hint of blue which is referred to as “pigeon’s blood.”

Inclusions (or imperfections) in rubies are to be expected and are generally well tolerated. However, when inclusions impact the transparency or brilliance of the stone, the value of the ruby dramatically decreases. 

Many top-quality rubies have been mined in Myanmar (formerly Burma), which is where the term “Burmese ruby” comes from.

Synthetic Rubies and Ruby Treatments

Like emeralds, almost all rubies have some type of imperfection, which helps in identifying synthetics. Synthetic rubies can be identified by its lack of inclusions. 

Simulated rubies were used in jewelry production since the 1850s. These are also known as garnet doublets, where a piece of garnet is fused with a pinkish-red piece of glass. This creates a gem that looks like a much more expensive ruby. Less expensive Victorian era jewelry incorporates these gems. 

 Synthetic “flame-fusion” rubies hit the commercial market in the late 1800s. Chemist Auguste Verneuil perfected this method and had his ruby material shown at the Paris World’s Fair in 1900.  

Most modern rubies are treated to improve their color and durability. Treatments include heat treatment, irradiation, and fracture filling. All treatments should be disclosed to the buyer. 

The first-ever functional laser was created with a synthetic ruby crystal by Theodore H. Maiman in 1960. Synthetic rubies are used not only in laser technology but also in microelectronics. 

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY CM & MRS. CM!!

What Every State is BEST At: Part 2

MontanaBest: Raising cats — Cat lovers should probably move to Montana right “meow.” In the Treasure State, cats live longer than they do anywhere else in the country, with an average lifespan of 14.3 which is over two years higher than the national average.NebraskaBest: Graduating high school — The nation’s high school graduation rate is at an all-time high, and it’s being led by Nebraska, with an incredible 93.7 percent of students graduating.NevadaBest: Rock climbing — With more mountains than any other state (there are 300 named ranges), Nevada is a premier destination for rock climbers from the sandstone of Red Rock Canyon to the summit of Boundary Peak.

New Hampshire

Best: Low unemployment rate — Fortunately, they should be able to pay off those hefty loans fairly quickly after graduation. That’s because the state also has one of the lowest unemployment rates at a mere 2.7 percent so jobs are aplenty. Find out the best-kept secret in every state.

New Jersey

Best: Diners — Known as the “Diner Capital of the World,” New Jersey has over 500 nostalgic joints serving up our favorite comfort food like old-fashioned root beer floats and massive portions of chicken-fried steak and mashed potatoes.

New Mexico

Best: Most doctorate degrees — What a bunch of smarty pants! While New Mexico may have the most PhDs per capita than any other state, they still can’t quite seem to figure out how to stop auto theft.

New York

Best: Bagels — There’s nothing quite like a New York bagel, all fluffy dough inside and crusty outside. The first bagel shop in the United States opened its doors in the Big Apple in the early 1900s, and the city has been blessing us with the best breakfast ever since.

North Carolina

Best: Millennial living — Duke basketball isn’t the only thing Durham is known for—it’s now also the best city for millennials. The No. 1 ranking factored in Durham’s increased job opportunities and low affordability, making it an ideal spot for young people.

North Dakota

Best: Saving money — Save it for a rainy day: That’s the motto of North Dakota, which boasts the highest number of adults who have savings accounts, according to a survey by WalletHub.

Ohio

Best: Deciding elections — Want to know who the next president of the United States will be? As Ohio goes, so goes the nation, per the popular saying of political pundits. The Buckeye State has voted for the winning candidate in every election since 1896 except 1944 and 1960.

Oklahoma

Best: Barbecue — Satisfy your cravings for a rack of sauce-slathered pork ribs in Oklahoma, the state with the most barbecue restaurants per capita.

Oregon

Best: Brewing beer — Pour a pint in Portland (say that five times fast!), the city with the most breweries in the whole world. And Oregonians aren’t just producing a lot of beer, they’re also enjoying it, if the fact that they spend more money on craft beer than any other state is any indication.

Pennsylvania

Best: Hunting — Hope you like camo if you live in Pennsylvania where you can find the most licensed hunters per capita. In fact, there are over 20 hunters per square mile!

Rhode Island

Best: Donuts — The state that has the most donut shops per capita—25 bakeries per 100,000 people, to be exact!

South Carolina

Best: Sweet tea — It doesn’t get much more Southern than a tall glass of iced sweet tea. Not only is South Carolina the birthplace of the sugary sip, it also boasts the country’s only commercial tea plantation, owned by Bigelow on Wadmalaw Island.

South Dakota

Best: Retirement — Everyone’s golden years are more, well, golden in South Dakota, where a combination of low taxes and happy residents makes it the best state for retirement according to Bankrate.

Tennessee

Best: Fast Wi-Fi — Good news: You can binge watch your favorite Netflix show much faster in Tennessee, where the Internet speed is 50 times quicker than the national average.

Texas

Best: Starting businesses — Explosive job growth, a lot of venture capital, and a business-friendly community are just a few of the things that make the Lonestar State the best place for entrepreneurs to chase their dreams.

Utah

Best: Low student debt — Graduate from college in Utah and you’ll likely leave with less of a student debt burden than most new grads. Last year, the state was the only one to have an average student debt of less than $20,000.

Vermont

Best: Being happy — The phrase “you are what you eat” definitely doesn’t apply to Vermont. Because the happiest state in the country isn’t consuming too many Happy Meals.

Virginia

Best: Patriotism — It’s no secret that Virginians are proud of the red, white, and blue. Close to the nation’s capital and home to eight of America’s 45 presidents, it has been lauded as the most patriotic state.

Washington

Best: Biking — Power to the pedal! You might want to trade your car for a bike the next time you’re in Washington, the most bike-friendly state in the nation thanks to Seattle’s bike-share program and an increased number of traffic laws protecting cyclists.

West Virginia

Best: Pizza — Forget New York or Chicago—West Virginia is the spot to be when you’re craving a cheesy slice of pie. According to a study, it has the most pizza shops per capita.

Wisconsin

Best: Raising a family — “Safety first” is clearly the motto of the Badger State, which is home to 32 percent of the nation’s safest cities for raising kids, based on factors like walkability and violent crime rates.

Wyoming

Best: Avoiding crowds — With just over 560,000 residents, Wyoming is the least populated state. There are more people in just the city of Nashville than there are in the entire Cowboy State.

Later in the month, I will post what each state is WORST at…lol

What Every State is BEST At: Part 1

This article is from the Reader’s Digest. I’ve turned it into a four-part open listing what they consider what each state is best at, and worst at. 

Amanda Tarlton

Reader’s Digest

Updated: Jun. 07, 2022

Alabama

Best: College football — “Roll Tide!” That’s what you’ll hear all across the state as they cheer on the University of Alabama’s football team, which has won the most national football championships of any college team since 1936.

Alaska

Best: The great outdoors Hiking, biking, canoeing… oh my! Between the breathtaking views of Denali National Park and the icy caps of Glacier Bay, Alaska is the state with the highest percentage of land set aside as national parks (it’s tied with Arizona).

Arizona

Best: Sunshine — Florida may be the official Sunshine State, but Arizona is the sunniest state. In fact, Yuma, located in the southwest corner of Arizona, is the sunniest place in the whole world, with a 90 percent chance of sun every day.

Arkansas

Best: Duck hunting — Arkansas is the real-life Duck Dynasty. Hunters come from all over the country to the state where the most ducks are harvested each season and where the World Championship Duck Calling Contest is held in Stuttgart.

California

Best: Diversity — Considered a “minority majority” state (meaning there is no single ethnic group or race that makes up the majority of the population), California has earned the title of the most diverse state in the United States.

Colorado

Best: Being active — Year after year, Colorado tops the list of the most physically active states with low obesity rates and some of the fittest residents.

Connecticut

Best: Making money — Hey, must be the money… that’s giving Connecticut such a good reputation. Because it’s not the roads, that’s for sure. Connecticut has the highest per-person average income of $50,392.

Delaware

Best: Small-town atmosphere — But what it lacks in trendy nightclubs, it makes up for in that “everybody knows everybody” vibe you can only get in the state with the least number of counties (only 3!) and no cities with more than 100,000 people.

Florida

Best: Vacationing — It should come as no surprise to anyone that the Sunshine State was voted the country’s top vacation destination. After all, it’s home to Disney World, beautiful beaches, the Everglades, and more.

Georgia

Best: Growing onions — Georgia may be nicknamed the Peach State, but its real claim to food fame is its Vidalia onions, which are some of the world’s sweetest onions—and they’re only grown in 20 counties in the Southern state.

Hawaii

Best: Beaches — Among the 33 miles of swimming beaches surrounding the islands of Hawaii, you’ll find Maui’s Kapalua Bay Beach, voted the best beach in America (with Hapuna Beach making it into the top ten, as well!).

Idaho

Best: Home ownership — Home is where the heart is. And your heart will definitely want to be in Idaho when you realize it was recently ranked the number one state for home ownership thanks to its affordability and low foreclosure rates.

Illinois

Best: Pumpkins — All those pumpkin-flavored treats you love in the fall wouldn’t be possible if it weren’t for Illinois, where 95 percent of everyone favorite gourds in the United States are grown.

Indiana

Best: Renting — Why buy when you can rent? In Indianapolis, that question makes perfect sense. The city was deemed the best for renters last year, with high affordability and one of the lowest average monthly rents of just $806.

Iowa

Best: Buying a house —Home buyers may want to add Iowa to their list of possible locations—the state offers the most affordable housing in the country, with a median home price of $181,900.

Kansas

Best: Roads — Drivers, this state is for you. Kansas has the least amount of poor roadways in the nation. According to USA TODAY, less than 1 percent of roads in the Sunflower State are considered unserviceable.

Kentucky

Best: Fried chicken — It’s called Kentucky Fried Chicken for a reason. Ever since Colonel Sanders (yes, he was a real person) started selling his fried chicken at a roadside restaurant more than 75 years ago, Kentucky has been the go-to spot for crispy golden chicken.

Louisiana

Best: Dating — The people of Louisiana are (mostly) single and ready to mingle—the state has the highest number of unmarried adults.

Maine

Best: Owning dogs —Fido will feel right at home in Maine, whether he’s an energetic pit bull or a lovable golden retriever. That’s because Maine welcomes all dog breeds (there are no restrictions) and has 76 dog-friendly beaches, making it the best place for pups in the United States.

Maryland

Best: Making millionaires — Want to be a millionaire? Your best chance at making that happen might be in Maryland, the state with the highest rate of seven-figure salaries. One study found that as many as 1 in 12 households have $1 million.

Massachusetts

Best: Being healthy — For the first time in five years, Hawaii was not the country’s healthiest state—it was replaced by Massachusetts. The state not only has a low obesity rate but it also the most mental health providers per population, according to the United Health Foundation’s annual ranking.

Michigan

Best: Golfing — Head to Michigan to play a few rounds, where they have the most golf courses and country clubs per capita.

Minnesota

Best: Credit scores — In St. Paul, the average credit score is 709 out of 850, making Minnesota the state with the highest overall credit scores.

Mississippi

Best: Cheap living — Perhaps for all the wrong reasons (one of the worst school systems and a failing economy, to name a few), Mississippi is the cheapest state to live in. In fact, after taxes and living expenses, residents of the Magnolia State keep 49 percent of their income.

Missouri

Best: Giving to charity — When it comes to giving back, Missouri is topping the charts, with St. Louis consistently ranking among the most charitable cities in the United States.

Tomorrow, the rest of the list.

What Shall We Make Today?

As promised, today’s offering is my mom’s Crab Pasta Salad.  She didn’t include a picture of hers, and when I went searching, I couldn’t find one with all the same ingredients.

Crab Pasta Salad

Ingredients

8 ounces cooked and drained pasta (any type: spirals, shells, macaroni)

8 ounces imitation crab meat

1 cup frozen peas thawed

1 cup fresh broccoli

½ cup chopped green pepper

1/3 cup chopped red pepper

¼ cup sliced green onion

2 stalks celery chopped small

¾ cup mayonnaise

1/3 cup Italian salad dressing

3 Tbsp grated Parmesan cheese

Directions

In a large bowl, combine the pasta, crab meat, peas, broccoli, green and red peppers and onion.  In another bowl, combine the mayonnaise, salad dressing, and Parmesan cheese.  Pour over pasta mixture and toss to coat.  Cover and refrigerate for 2 hours or until chilled. Enjoy!

The Patriot

The Patriot is one of my all-time favorite movies, and since today is July 4th, let’s play a game! There are thirteen trivia questions in honor of the original 13 colonies. Let’s begin! 

Who plays Benjamin Martin?

Who plays Gabriel Martin?

How many children does Benjamin Martin have in the beginning of the movie?

What did Gabriel do to Anne when he was a child?

Which of Benjamin’s sons dies at their farm after being shot by Colonel Tavington?

Which country promises to help the Americans?

What breed of dogs do Benjamin and his militia steal from a British carriage?

How many of Benjamin’s men do General Cornwallis’s troops capture?

When John Billings finds his wife and son dead, what does he do?

Who kills Gabriel?

What color eyes did Frenchman Jean Villineuve’s children have?

When Tavington says that Benjamin was not the better man, who does Benjamin say was?

Does Benjamin die in the end?

Here are the answers…how did you do?

Mel Gibson

Heath Ledger

7

He got ink on her teeth

Thomas

France

Great Danes

 18

Kills himself

Colonel Tavington

Green

His sons

No

DIY: Show Your Colors

This 4th of July, display your patriotic pride! With these super simple wreath ideas, you can show the world what country has your heart!

Bandana Wreath

If you can tie a knot, you can make this wreath! And you don’t even need a formal wreath form as a base. You can use cardboard!

Pompom Wreath

This wreath uses pompoms glued to a wreath form (found in any dollar store).

Clothespin Wreath

After you paint the clothespins, you attach them to a wire wreath form. (You might have to get one of those at a craft store.) Add some purchased wooden or foam stars.

Card Stock Paper Wreath

To make this wreath, make funnels out of card stock paper (thicker and stiffer than regular colored paper). Then attach the funnels to a cardboard circle in a flower design. Add a pleated circle for the center and finish off with a star!

Canning Lids Wreath

After painting the lids, use heavy ribbon to tie the lids into a tight circle. (This will be the smaller inner circle.) Then use additional ribbon to weave in and out of the lids on the outer edge as shown. Add foam stars and a bow!

Party On Peeps!

Another National Day…

Today is National UFO Day, and as I was researching the usual suspects, I came across a UFO Festival being held in McMinnville, Oregon.  And they are very serious about their ufo’s there, with good reason.  In 1950 a farmer in McMinnville captured photos of a flying disc that were never disproven to this day. I bring the story from the HOW&WHY’S website for your perusal.

1950 McMinnville UFO Photos Shot By Oregon Farmer were 100% Real, Not A Hoax

Last updated: 2022/08/20 at 10:49 PM

By Vicky Verma 2 years ago

Soon after World War II ended, Americans began seeing strange metallic objects in the sky that were sometimes hovering over their premises. Three years after the famous Kenneth Arnold sighting, a farming couple took the best shots of a 100-feet flying disc, hovering at a close distance from their farm about 10 miles from McMinnville, Oregon, the United States. Skeptics tried hard to prove the photograph a hoax but it was 100% authentic.

On May 11, 1950, Evelyn Trent went to her farm to finish her evening chores, she fed her chickens and rabbits. While walking back to her house, she saw a disc-shaped flying saucer, silently hovering over her farm. At around 7:45 p.m., she shouted to call her husband. Evelyn ran to the house and told her husband Paul to come out.

He also saw the strange craft that made no noise and there was no sign of propulsion. He quickly grabbed his Universal Roamer camera that came with 60mm roll film and took two shots of the object from different angles. There were only 30 seconds of time interval between the two photos.

Evelyn recalled: “It was like a good-sized parachute canopy without the strings, only silver-bright mixed with bronze. It was as pretty as anything I ever saw.” As shown below in the first image, the object appeared to be in the middle of the Trents’ garage and an electric pole. While in the second image, the object faded as it moved several yards away.

Paul could have made a fortune by selling these photos to the news agencies but he did nothing. It sounds crazy because during that time, newspapers would have bought them at a good price. The Trents were not looking for fame or publicity. Besides, they had heard stories about the secret government experimental aircraft and if it would be the one, they might get into trouble. 

Subsequently, when film rolls were processed and photographs came out, Paul showed them to his friends. Later, they were sent to the weekly newspaper in McMinnville and were published on the front page on June 8, 1950.

Interestingly, the photo contained no irregular lights, clouds nor weather balloons. It was the clear shot of the unidentified craft only if the Trents had not set it up. The farming couple seemed to be decent with honest behavior. It should be noted that the photos reached the newspaper only one month after they had been taken.

McMinnville Telephone-Register, June 8, 1950

The photos became a great sensation in just a few weeks of publication. The story was picked up by International News Service and the Associated Press. On June 26, 1950, Life magazine, the most popular newspaper of that time, put the two iconic UFO images on its front page, making this case historical.

Frontpage of Life magazine, June 26, 1950

The Trents’ photo grabbed the attention of the FBI and the US Air Force. They had a visit from their investigators who took their photos, questioned them, and searched their field. Although the Trents were getting some attention and seemed to enjoy it, they wished it had never happened.

The story behind the film negatives is rather confusing as it splits into two versions. According to one version, the Trents gave the negatives to producers of the American talk show “‘We the People” from where they remained lost for 17 years. Another version comes from UFO historian Richard Dolan where he stated that the Air Force took the negatives and never returned them.

In the 1960s, when the US Air Force began its investigation into UFOs, the negatives of McMinnville UFO photographs were found in the file of United Press International. Later, the Condon Committee took charge of it.

Planetary scientist William K. Hartmann studied the negatives and found out that the craft was only a kilometer away from the field when being shot by Paul. Additionally, it was around 100 feet in diameter.

Hartmann wrote: “This is one of the few UFO cases in which all factors investigated, geometric, psychological, and physical appear to be consistent with the assertion that an extraordinary flying object, silvery, metallic, disc-shaped, tens of meters in diameter, and evidently artificial, flew within sight of two witnesses.”

Another credible source to prove the authenticity of the photos is an American optical physicist Dr. Bruce Maccabee who believed the Trents’ photos were real.

Paul Trent died in 1998, a year after his wife. He eventually just wanted to put the whole UFO thing behind them.

Pink Fairy Armadillo

The pink color of their shell is due to a network of blood vessels underneath, which can be seen through the armor.

This is what gives the pink fairy armadillo shell its pink or pale-rose appearance.

The armored shell contains 24 bands that allow the pink fairy armadillo to curl up into a ball to protect its vulnerable soft underbelly.

While its shell is much softer than and more flexible than other armadillos, it still acts as armor.

Of all armadillo species, the pink fairy armadillo is the only one whose dorsal shell is totally separate from its body.

It is connected to the body with only a thin membrane, which runs right along its spine.

Scientists believe the pink fairy armadillo shell helps with thermoregulation.

Since its blood vessels are so close to the surface, the armadillo can control the amount of surface area is exposed to the environment to gain or lose heat.

The pink fairy armadillo shell can change color.

This is dependent on the environment and thermoregulation of the armadillo. Irrigation of the blood can increase into carapace of the shell to help lose heat and increase the ‘pink’ appearance. Conversely, it can drain blood from out of the shell to retain body heat which makes the shell color paler.

It’s equipped with two massive sets of claws on its front and hind legs.

They serve as tools to assist with quickly digging burrows in compacted soil. A very rare video below captures a pink fairy armadillo doing what pink fairy armadillos do best: digging.

The pink fairy armadillo has earned an unusual nickname the ‘sand-swimmer’.

It was long presumed by biologists that they could ‘swim’ through sand like a fish swimming in a body of water. However, that is a myth, the pink fairy armadillo actually digs through sand using their claws.

The posterior portion of their shell, known as the ‘butt plate’ – is flattened, so that it can compress dirt behind it as its digging.

It does so to close the burrow behind it, and create more open space in front so it can breathe. Mariella Superina a biologist managed to capture this behavior in a video below.

The claws of the Pink Fairy Armadillo make it hard to walk on hard surfaces.

Because of the size of the digging claws, which are actually large in comparison to the scale of the animal, they make walking on anything other than sand and soft surfaces very difficult.

Pink fairy armadillos are extremely sensitive to changes in environmental conditions and stress resulting from it can be devastating.

As they are classified as subterranean armadillos, any form of environmental change can have an impact on them including extreme changes in temperature or soil quality.

The desert-adapted characteristics of the pink fairy armadillo severely limits the type of habitat it can occupy.

In order for these mammals to survive, they require undisturbed regions that contain enough compact sand and hiding places for protection from elements and predators.

As a fossorial generalist insectivore, the pink fairy armadillo has a primary diet which is easily and quickly supplemented when required.

Ants and larvae that are located underground make up the main diet for this mammal and in instances when these food sources do not exist, the pink fairy armadillo will turn to plant leaves and roots.

With very small eyes, the pink fairy armadillo finds its way around in a unique manner that does not require vision.

The navigation skills of this animal come directly from touch and hearing.

The body of the pink fairy armadillo has a great deal to do with how it is able to move underground.

It has a torpedo-shape which reduces the amount of drag when burrowing underground.The tail of the pink fairy armadillo is more than just an appendage that hangs from the rear of the body.Because it is thick and hairless, the tail is used for balance and stability when all other limbs are being used for other tasks.Rain presents life-threatening risks to the pink fairy armadillo.Because it lives in burrows, during heavy rain the armadillo will vacate the underground to avoid being drowned. Plus, if it gets its fur wet, the pink fairy armadillo can’t properly thermoregulate and may develop hypothermia in the cooler hours overnight.

Oddly enough, on the black market, many of these mammals have been sold as pets. However, their low survival rate in captivity has greatly impacted that practice.

Climate change could virtually eliminate the entire pink fairy population.

Because they have very little body fat and a low metabolism rate, cold temperatures could result in the extinction of this animal. Habitat loss it already contributing to a decline in population.

Farming presents two very different risks to the pink fairy armadillo population.

In addition to farmland destroying burrows, the use of pesticide can impact the mammal. The pesticides adhere to the bodies of ants and as ants are one food source for the pink fairy armadillo, the more one ingests, the sicker it can get.

Hunters have also contributed to the decline in pink fairy armadillo population.

Pink fairy armadillos have been harvested for consumption for decades. The fact that they have a taste and texture that has been compared to pork has added to the endangerment.

They are so rare, nobody really knows their conservation status and whether they are an endangered species.

Mariella Superina a biologist for National Scientific and Technical Research Council of Argentina’s Conservation has been trying to assess their risk of extinction and in 13 years of field work has never seen a pink fairy armadillo in the wild. She has only seen tracks, which stop suddenly, and appear to be where the armadillo has disappeared underground.

Multitasking & Monkey Wrenches

If you want something done, ask a busy person.  I found this statement to true almost all the time. 

In order to take advantage of college grant money available only to full time students, I went to evening college four nights a week. (Full disclaimer: my first semester, I was not allowed to be full time—I had to prove myself. I took 3 classes, paid for them myself and aced them.  I was then permitted to go four nights a week.)

My son and I were living with my parents and my mom watched him during the days until a daycare opening became available.  So, I had to find babysitters for him 3 nights a week (Mom would do it one night).  I made weekends as special as possible and I made my son a promise that as soon as I graduated, we would go to Disney in Florida. (This was over 35 years ago, mind you.)

Time passed.  I worked full time days, went to classes 4 night a week and spent weekends pouring over brochures with my son mapping out our week in Florida.  Then, in my last summer session, my son asked me to invite Jenny’s Dad to his birthday party.  I asked about her mom too, but my son said no!  I did as he wished and got a call a few nights later from Jenny’s Dad asking me what my son wanted for his birthday.  We started talking and comparing exes and we laughed and laughed.  Then he asked me out…

Three months later we were engaged and planning a June wedding.

Over my Christmas break, we booked the Chapel at my college, the reception hall, the caterer, the DJ, and met with the Priest.  Since by that time, my first husband had passed away, I was free to remarry in the Catholic faith.  Hubby, however, was not Catholic, but his first wife was.

 He would need to annul his first marriage…

Fortunately, they were not married in a Catholic church and his ex-wife was eager to remarry herself, so she agreed.  We would still need to attend “marriage classes” and they were on Saturdays.  Could I fit more into my jam-packed schedule??

When my final semester approached, I was studying at work—reciting my notes while I sewed, amusing the Syrian women on either side of me who didn’t understand a word of what I was saying.

Weekends were a whirlwind—marriage classes, shopping for dresses for the bridal party and my mom, spending time with the kids, and solidifying our travel plans to Florida—a promise is a promise!

My own search for a wedding dress was fruitless.  My parents adored my prospective second husband and wanted to pay for at least my dress (we were paying for everything else), but every dress was soooo expensive.  I decided to make my own.

For about $60 in fabric, lace and trims, I would have the dress I wanted.  I just had to find the time to make it!

May finally came and I took my finals. They were a breeze. (Yeah, I’m bragging, sue me…lol)

Next up was the trip to Disney with my son, and HIS first plane ride. At the airport we were told our commuter flight to Philly was canceled but they could get us on another one—but we couldn’t sit together!

This plane was a puddle jumper and only had a few rows of 3 seats.  The only remaining seats were in the middle of two rows, one behind the other.  I asked everyone around us if they would move so we could sit together but no one wanted to do that…so I slid my arm between the seats and held his hand throughout the entire (blessedly short) flight. We sat next to each other on the larger plane to Florida and we had a blast in Disney.

When we got back to PA, it was the end of May and I was looking forward to starting, yep, STARTING my wedding gown.  Mother Nature had other plans.

I caught bronchial pneumonia.  It left me drained, and most evenings all I wanted to do was sleep.  It took two weeks for me to finish a rough version of the wedding gown.  (I decided to use cheaper fabric to make a “practice” dress—fitting it and changing it before using my intended fabric.)  I was still working during the week and the weekends were filled with bridal showers, assembling centerpieces and favors and still blending our soon-to-be-family.

Finally, our wedding day arrived with a surprise. 

One of the groomsmen brought a limo for us from the company he worked for.  We already had the bridal car decorated and my brother was our driver.  Then the groomsman told us HE alone was permitted to drive the limo. I told hubby to make the decision and after he smoothed things over with my brother, he decided to use the limo. 

After the wedding ceremony, we drove in the limo out to the Rose Garden for pictures.  On the way we discovered the air conditioning in this particular limo was not working in the BACK. 

After pictures in the hot sun, in a limo with no air in the back, I passed out. They decided to take me back to my parents’ house and brought out a glass of water, which they promptly threw in my face…

ruining my hair and make-up.  (It did, however, bring me to…LOL)

I attempted to get out of the limo—to fix my hair and make-up—but they told me we would be late for the reception. I said screw that…and fixed what I could.  We were indeed 20 minutes late to the reception, but I will never forget walking into that hall.  I smiled and sighed knowing all I had accomplished to get to this point.  Hubby gave me a tender kiss as the DJ announced…”for the first time anywhere, please welcome (Hubby) and PATRICK Frederick…”

Sigh…

Happy 32nd Anniversary Honey!