The Best for Mom

General 3 Minutes

We all want what’s “BEST” for our parents, but in our rush to protect and make things better, we sometimes overstep our good intentions.  My mom has always had a problem with her knees.  After being dared by her older brother (my uncle who owns the property next door to Mom) to jump the fence between their homes and landing awkwardly on one knee, it has been an on again/off again knee problem for many, many years.  Damp weather or cold weather makes it worse, but for the most part she gets around just fine.  In her recent years, she has taken to using a walker to keep herself steady because she doesn’t want to fall.

After Dad passed and before she started with the walker, she used to be active outside.  She’d rake her leaves, clean her windows and even do some limited gardening.  Then one afternoon, she discovered her good aluminum ladder was gone from the woodshed.  Since my brother and his wife were the last visitors she’d had, she called them and confronted them about the ladder.  Their first reaction was to deny it.  When she persisted, they giggled.  Then they confessed that they didn’t want her to climb ladders anymore.  She was furious. First, they lied to her. Second, they treated her like a child.  Despite their good intentions, mom felt, in a word, gaslighted. 

Times have changed since then, and my brother and sister-in-law have problems of their own and have less time to do things for Mom.  My cousin who lives next door with my aunt and uncle has stepped up and so has a younger neighbor of my mom’s.  They will get groceries for her or take her along if she’s up to it; they run her to doctor’s appointments and do other odd errands and chores for her.  She feels lucky to have them.  She does, however, reward them financially for everything they do.  (But there are times, she insists, they refuse any money.)

Mom comes from a family of 17 children, so she knows what it feels like to have very little of her own.  To that end, after she married, she helped all the siblings who came behind her as much as she could.  She saved things constantly, telling me so and so might be able to use this. But now, in her later years, she is tired of the clutter in her house and wants to get rid of things.  So my visits have been trying to declutter her rooms and make it easier for her to move about more freely. 

Mom has not been able to go into her upstairs or down into her basement since she started using the walker, so she has relied on others to get or take things from those places and it’s been her niece and neighbor friend.  During the last 2 visits with Mom, she’s made comments about missing some things she’s sure she still had.  Now, I know my mom—she freely gives things to anyone if they need it.  But she doesn’t remember giving these items away.  Could it be a memory issue?  Sure, she’s not a young lady anymore.  But that incident with the ladder is haunting her—she isn’t sure that one of the people who have keys to her home (for emergencies) isn’t taking things without permission. Out of sight, out of mind.  Again, Mom insists, if someone asks, she’d surely give it to them.  But this is making her feel unsafe in her home.

This last visit, I confirmed that this is not all in her imagination. The last trip we made in December, we discussed certain items I told her were still in one room upstairs.  Four Lipton Tea cooler sets she sent box tops to get years and years ago. (The set was a cooler—one man lunch kind of thing—and a good thermos on the top in a space made just for it.) She had 4 of them with the thermoses on top.  This visit, the thermoses were gone, except for one lid and cup laying on a dresser.  The coolers were still there though.  Both my cousin and her friend had been upstairs in the interim.

I didn’t have time to search the entire upstairs for these thermoses so I can’t positively accuse anyone.  Our next visit will be a more concerted effort to find them.  But we spent one whole day cleaning the other room.  I started with taking pictures of each side of the room and showing her those.  Then bringing down items and boxes and detailing their contents.  Then I drew a “map” of where everything was placed.  I will compare that list/map to what’s there next time.  That will at least help Mom’s mind, I hope.  And if something is moved or gone, we can discuss other options…nanny cams perhaps?

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  1. “COVID-19 Not Responsible for “Explosion” in Heart Deaths, Major Autopsy Study Shows. “Must Be the Vaccine,” Says Top Heart Doctor”
    BY WILL JONES 29 MARCH 2023 1:50 PM

    ENTIRE ARTICLE @ DailySceptic: “Since the early days of the pandemic there has been a concern that SARS-CoV-2 infection in humans could cause heart inflammation and thus cardiac injury and death. A number of observational studies have appeared to show increased heart problems following infection, though the observational nature of these studies has led to criticism they are confounded and unreliable. Other studies have not found an increase in heart problems following Covid infection and have established that myocarditis was not above baseline in 2020.

    Now the lack of relationship between COVID-19 and heart inflammation has been confirmed in a systematic review of 50 autopsy studies covering 548 hearts of patients who died of or with COVID-19. While around two thirds of the hearts had SARS-CoV-2 found in the tissue, none had extensive myocarditis as the cause of death. Top heart doctor Peter McCullough comments on the study – which was published last year – that it “should be the nail in the coffin in ruling out COVID-19 illness as a cause of fatal myocarditis”.

    “Despite the virus being found in heart tissue, it was not causing significant inflammation,” he said. This means that the “explosion of fatal myocarditis” as inferred from the reports and autopsies of unexplained cardiac arrest, “must have another explanation than SARS-CoV-2 infection,” he added.

    “The only new proven cause of heart damage in human populations is COVID-19 vaccination. Vaccines used in America (Pfizer, Moderna, Janssen, Novavax) have been demonstrated to cause myocarditis as published in the peer-reviewed literature.”

    Autopsies of vaccinated patients have found clear evidence of strong expression of spike protein in heart muscle that, according to Dr. Michael Palmer and Dr. Sucharit Bhakdi, “correlates with significant inflammation and tissue destruction”.

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  2. On one hand, I approved of Trump going after Soleimani but, at the same time, we need to get out of their countries, IMO!

    EXCERPT: “(CNSNews.com) – The U.S. Senate voted 66-30 Wednesday to repeal two Iraq-related war authorizations, with Republicans divided on the question amid stepped-up attacks on U.S. troops by Iranian proxies in the region. All 30 “no” votes came from Republicans, while another 18 Republicans voted with Democrats in favor of repealing the 2002 authorization for the use of military force (AUMF) that paved the way for the invasion of Iraq 20 years ago, and the 1991 AUMF that authorized Operation Desert Storm.

    Debate and a series of unsuccessful GOP amendments over the past week centered on the 2002 AUMF, and especially its use in countering malign Iranian activity in the region. “Multiple administrations have relied on this authority to address the threat from Iran-backed Shi’a militias,” Senate Foreign Relations Committee ranking member Jim Risch (R-Idaho) said before the vote.

    (When President Trump ordered the January 2020 airstrike that killed Islamic Revolutionary Guard Corps (IRGC) Qods Force commander Qassem Soleimani in Baghdad, the White House cited the 2002 AUMF in part as legal justification. Soleimani oversaw the Iraq-based Shi’ite militias.)”

    https://www.cnsnews.com/article/international/patrick-goodenough/senate-votes-repeal-iraq-aumf-ending-blank-check

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  5. waynesteapartyworld
    waynesteapartyworld
    March 31, 2023 12:40 pm

    If anyone missed G.Beck on Tucker last night, he hit on the exact reason for the DC Junta arresting PDJT. They are inciting us supporters into rersponding with some sort of violence, real or perceived, so that they can round up and jail us like they did the J6 protestors. And oh btw, this is exactly why it would be a catastrophic mistake to form a third party, since it would make for a perfect target for their armed torpedo.

    It’s crystal clear to me now, and i see why the Democrat-media complex have been working so hard to fabricate this straw-man called “violent domestic extremist”…. They created the aforementioned armed torpedo that’s looking for a target, and their plan all along has been to fabricate a pretense to make Trump supporters that target.

    Consequently, it’s critical that we don’t take the bait, and don’t give them anything. Basically, even any large peaceful protests are dangerous, because they are locked and loaded for a repeat of the J6 setup.

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    1. i think some of this has validity. they will use any protest to call REALPOTUS a national security threat to keep him sequestered and a gag order to keep him without a voice. they will drag this out and make it harder for him to campaign. any protest will be infiltrated and supporters arrested–it worked so far with 1/6…

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      1. Aren’t they??!!?? I can’t wait to plant them out in front!!!! With the hanging one above and to the right, it should look really nice! I’m going to pick up a section of black wrought iron fence to put in front of the porch:

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  7. eilert
    eilert (@guest_1075341)Online
    March 31, 2023 13:00

    At last some movement for Election Integrity:

    HUGE: Arizona House Joins Senate in Passing Resolution to Ban Foreign Voting Machines and Require Source Code, Ballot Images, Chain of Custody Documents, and Log Files to Be Made Public | The Gateway Pundit

    The Arizona House voted yesterday to pass Senate Concurrent Resolution 1037, setting official requirements for the use of electronic voting machines in the state and banning the use of some.

    The resolution passed in the Arizona Senate on March 6 by a vote of 16-13.

    On Thursday, March 30, The Arizona House joined the Senate and voted 31-27 in favor.

    This resolution will bypass the Governor and go directly to the Secretary of State’s office. If the Secretary of State does not comply with this order, the Legislature can and likely will sue.

    …………

    Clarification

    SCR 1037 is AZ legislature resolved to reclaim its plenary power to oversee FEDERAL elections per the US Constitution, irrespective of governor.

    SB 1074 acknowledges the state legislature having authority over STATE elections, which requires a governor’s approval.

    — Wendy Rogers (@WendyRogersAZ) February 14, 2023

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  12. “Celebrities including Jim Carrey, Britney Spears, and Kylie Jenner are reportedly scrambling to sell their multi-million-dollar mansions before a city law called Measure ULA imposes a four per cent transfer tax on property sales over $5m and a 5.5 per cent tax on sales over $10m, to be paid by the seller.

    Officials estimate that the so-called “mansion tax” will raise around $672m for affordable housing, hopefully helping to get some of the city’s estimated tens of thousands of rough sleepers off the streets. They’ve tried – and failed miserably – many times before to get rid of the homeless bullshit out there, but fuck it, dude – the weather’s too nice. If it was shitty like in Northern Cali where it snows 20 feet a day, nobody’d live on the streets.

    Read about this and other LaLaLand fuck-ups and acts of pure futility here:”

    https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/la-mansion-tax-homeless-ula-b2309126.html

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    1. sunrei
      March 31, 2023 2:18 pm

      Thurs Mar 30 ———-Pres Trump indictment –also the 42nd anniversary of Reagan assassination attempt

      Tues April 4 2:15pm – Pres Trump Arrainment in NYC
      Tues April 4 2:00pm – FL Senate to vote on amendement to the Resign to Run law to allow DeSantis to run

      Tracking DeSantis:

      Sat April1 – Long Island
      Mon April 3 – Tennessee with Gov Bill Lee and Clay Travis
      April 4/5 – home to make sure the FL Senate amendment goes thru?
      Thurs April 6 – Michigan
      Tues April 14 – Virginia – Liberty Univ Convocation
      Wed April 22 – Utah Republian State Convention – keynote spkr
      Mon April 27 – Israel keynot spkr

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  18. sunnydaze
    March 31, 2023 2:27 pm

    …..” Seven past and present sorority members are suing the Kappa Kappa Gamma sisterhood for its 2022 decision to admit transgender inductee Artemis Langford to the University of Wyoming chapter.

    “An adult human male does not become a woman just because he tells others that he has a female ‘gender identity’ and behaves in what he believes to be a stereotypically female manner,” reads a legal complaint filed Monday in the U.S. District Court for Wyoming.”……..

    https://cowboystatedaily.com/2023/03/28/women-sue-university-of-wyoming-sorority-for-accepting-transgender-member/

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  19. j x
    March 31, 2023 2:29 pm

    BREAKING: Trans activists rally in Florida Capitol chanting “Whose schools? Our schools!” as bill passes that continues crackdown on sexual orientation and gender identity teachings

    Video taken by reporter @Ernie_Sampera pic.twitter.com/nXiO3wQBdL

    — Florida’s Voice (@FLVoiceNews) March 31, 2023

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  21. whoa…10 pounds of shit in a 5 pound bag!

    Freedom ring
    March 31, 2023 3:28 pm

    Joe Biden – 20 pounds of bull excrement in a 10 pound bag.

    “Let’s just make sure we keep the record clear when it comes to Joe Biden. He isn’t Greek. He isn’t Puerto Rican. He isn’t black. He isn’t Jewish. He’s not a truck driver. He wasn’t involved in the Civil Rights movement. He was called a professor at Penn, but never taught a class. I guess that makes him a PINO (Professor In Name Only). He wasn’t congratulated at the White House on traveling two million miles by rail by an Amtrak conductor because the conductor had retired and died years before. He never gave his Uncle Frank a Purple Heart at the White House. His house didn’t burn to the ground. His son wasn’t killed in Iraq. He was not the top of his class in law school. He was not a varsity football player on the way to going pro. He didn’t have a job at a timber company. He was not arrested while meeting Nelson Mandela. He did not hit a homerun in a Congressional baseball game. He did not overhear a mass shooting. He is not a cancer survivor. Oil did not rain down on his hometown. He did not go to synagogue on Sunday. His father did not counsel him on 2023 views of same sex marriage when he was in high school in 1957 after allegedly witnessing two men kiss openly one morning when he was going to high school. He did not graduate with three degrees from undergraduate school. He did not get his start at an HBCU. He did not have a full academic scholarship. He has not visited Iraq and Afghanistan 50 times. He did not pin a medal on a heroic naval office in Afghanistan.”

    https://hotair.com/generalissimo/2023/03/31/joe-bidenopoulos-latest-biographical-lie-has-people-translating-bs-into-original-greek-n540517

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  22. “Centuries-Old Architectural Marvel Perfect Location For Burger King Billboard”
    WORLD · Mar 31, 2023 · BabylonBee.com

    “LONDON — A successful marketing firm in the U.K. has come up with an ingenious plan, deciding that the centuries-old landmark Piccadilly Circus is an ideal place for an enormous Burger King billboard.

    “It’s such an awe-inspiring, beautiful location that is famous around the world,” said marketing strategist Eric Embry. “With so many people traveling from all over the globe to visit this destination, we figured it would be a great idea to render it completely invisible by covering it with advertisements. Why would anyone want to see these beautiful buildings when they can see a huge billboard for Burger King, am I right?”

    Tourists and shoppers walking through the well-known intersection did not agree with Mr. Embry’s assessment. “Do you really think I spent an entire day flying over here from Utah to look at a three-story picture of a Whopper?!” asked American traveler Corey Adams. “Why not just hang a giant tarp with the Nike swoosh on it over Big Ben while you’re at it?”

    Even the locals in the area expressed confusion over the obnoxious marketing tactics. “It’s such a lovely neighborhood with fantastic architecture,” said London resident John Hazeldine. “Seeing it covered in cheeseburgers and chips is really a bit sad, innit?”

    At publishing time, a visibly frustrated Mr. Adams had left Piccadilly Circus and was headed toward Buckingham Palace, which he now fully expected to be completely unviewable due to being obscured by 100-foot-tall LED signs for Coca-Cola and McDonald’s placed on the front lawn.”

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  23. TheseTruths(@thesetruths)Online
    Wolf
    March 31, 2023 15:26

    Jack Posobiec:

    The FBI is storing the trans manifesto next to Weiner’s laptop and Epstein’s client list

    The FBI is storing the trans manifesto next to Weiner’s laptop and Epstein’s client list

    — Jack Posobiec 🇺🇸 (@JackPosobiec) March 31, 2023

    Related, from “Gain of Fauci”:

    BREAKING: FBI to release Nashville Christian school shooter Audrey Hale’s manifesto as soon as they are finished writing it.

    BREAKING: FBI to release Nashville Christian school shooter Audrey Hale’s manifesto as soon as they are finished writing it. pic.twitter.com/WIbQWcDLAg

    — Gain of Fauci (@DschlopesIsBack) March 29, 2023

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  25. and yeah…that’ll work. introduce a BILL to unseal all the payoffs in congress. cuz they’ll all vote yes to that, right?
    entire article
    On Thursday’s broadcast of Newsmax TV’s “The Record,” Rep. Darrell Issa (R-CA) reacted to reports that former President Donald Trump has been indicted by pointing to Congress paying to settle misconduct allegations against members of Congress who have then run for re-election without the public knowing it and that he “would be happy” to support unsealing these payments.

    Issa said, “The United States Congress, with some regularity, has paid people for settlements, which they then sealed, based on misconduct from members of Congress, and this has been reported. … And then they run for re-election without the public knowing it.”

    Host Greta Van Susteren then said, “Okay, well, I love a level playing field and I love transparency. Your party has a majority in the House of Representatives. You could introduce a bill to unseal all the secret payments made by Congress, by both Republicans and Democrats. How about it, why not do that? I mean, let’s lay out all the cards, as long as we’re looking for justice tonight.”

    Issa responded, “I would be happy to do so. But I will say there [are] enough that have been reported over the years on a number of members of Congress for you to know that it does occur, it has occurred.”

    https://www.breitbart.com/clips/2023/03/30/issa-members-of-congress-have-had-allegations-settled-by-taxpayers-and-then-run-without-public-knowing-id-be-happy-to-unseal-those/

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  26. sunnydaze
    sunnydaze
    March 31, 2023 4:32 pm

    Italy Deals Massive Blow to Bill Gates as It Moves to Ban Lab-Grown Meats. Good for Italy. Britain should do the same and support Britains farmers. #BanLabMeat #BritishFarming https://t.co/fpGVgwCIGN

    — Jim Ferguson (@JimFergusonUK) March 30, 2023

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  28. I am adding a short daily prayer to the board. I would invite each of you, if you wish, to also add one or maybe two of your own liking. I do not want to stifle anyone but please limit yourself to one or two religious postings. here’s one I found that I liked.

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